Promises and Commitment. Why?
I have been bugged on this for weeks actually. Someone told me: when you don’t promise and do what you promised, you don’t have a sense of commitment.
Like how? How can a person lack a sense of commitment just because he/she choose to not make promises?
Can anyone, please share some thoughts about this and enlighten me?
Personally I am not fond of making promises coz I believe if someone wants to do something, you really don’t have to wait to make it happen.
But having said that, I don’t mean I don’t make promises myself. I have in the past, but I personally don’t like making promises because it also can hurt and disappoint people.. Especially when you can’t fulfill your promises because of some circumstances and the people we usually make promises to are the people we love and care for the most.
It is also not about being burnt in the past, too mind you. There were people in the past who made me promises of this and that and those but none of them happened and it does hurt… That’s why instead of making a promise, I’d rather do it coz I know how it feels…
What just bothered me is how can someone lack the sense of commitment?
I was never ever afraid of commitment.. There may be a time when I really thought I was ready so I said yes to a relationship and jumped in to something I wasn’t really prepared to do so, and my heart isn’t there as well so I had to eventually put an end to it. But is it enough to say I am afraid or I lack the sense of commitment?
I have been only in a few serious relationship and never messed nor cheated… Never even used other men to toy with even when I am single and tried my best to be open and transparent on my feelings and thoughts. Maybe not all the time but really trying and doing my best to be better version of me.
However, no matter what people say, no matter what they call me; no matter if they say they know me; and how much they assume they know everything about me, they really don’t know everything.
I don’t know everything, too and what I just blurted out was one of the petty things that bothered me few weeks. And if you have an explanation, or an insight, I will be glad to know, listen and learn.
Hope y’all are having a lovely week!